When a dream falls apart, it doesn’t just break your plans.
It can shake the very ground beneath your feet.
Suddenly, life doesn’t look like you thought it would.
And before you even realize it, a quiet question starts to surface:
Who am I now?
If you’re here because something you hoped for didn’t work out — a season, a plan, a calling, a version of life you prayed for — I want you to know this first:
You’re not weak for feeling this way.
And you’re not alone.
When Life Doesn’t Look Like the Plan
There’s a specific kind of grief that comes when you did everything “right,” trusted God, stayed faithful… and things still unraveled.
You may be asking:
- Why did this still happen?
- Why does everyone else seem to be moving forward while I’m stuck?
- Why do I feel lost when I’m supposed to trust God?
Disappointment has a way of making us question not just God’s plan — but ourselves.
And grief doesn’t only come from loss.
It also comes from unmet expectations, delayed dreams, and quiet endings no one else sees.
God is not offended by your disappointment.
He is not threatened by your questions.
And He is not asking you to pretend this doesn’t hurt.
A Season I Didn’t Expect
Mom Leaves A Legacy didn’t start where it is today.
In the beginning, the focus was clear and practical — finances, stewardship, building a strong foundation for families. And that work mattered. It still does.
But life got heavy.
I became overwhelmed — not just as a mom, but as a person. I wasn’t looking for better systems or strategies. I was tired in my soul. So quietly, almost desperately, I started doing Bible studies through YouVersion for weary and overwhelmed moms.
I wasn’t trying to “fix” anything.
I was just trying to survive.
And then came the moment I couldn’t ignore anymore: I couldn’t move forward until I stopped running.
That’s when From the Trenches was born.
What started as obedience turned into healing. Writing those words brought the darkest, hardest places of my life into the light — not to relive them, but to finally deal with them biblically. To let God meet me there. To heal what I had buried so I could move forward whole.
Somewhere in that process, I realized something had shifted.
Mom Leaves A Legacy wasn’t just about finances anymore.
It was about hope.
About healing.
About reminding people they are not alone.
The dream didn’t disappear.
It was refined.
The Quiet Temptation When Dreams Fall Apart
When something we hoped for collapses, we instinctively reach for something — anything — to hold ourselves together.
Often, without realizing it, we anchor our identity to things that were never meant to carry that weight.
Maybe for you, it sounds like this:
- Productivity or success: If I’m not producing, I feel invisible.
- Motherhood performance: If my kids aren’t thriving, I feel like I’m failing.
- Money or security: If my finances aren’t stable, I don’t feel safe.
- The dream itself: If the plan changed, I don’t know who I am anymore.
- Ministry or serving: If I’m not useful, I feel less loved.
None of these things are bad.
But none of them are strong enough to be your foundation.
They make good servants — and terrible saviors.
When everything we lean on starts to shift, God gently reminds us where our identity has always been rooted.
Isaiah 43:1 says, “But now thus says the LORD, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: ‘Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.’”
Your dream may have changed, but your name has not.
You are still known. Still redeemed. Still His.
What Jesus Says About You Still Stands
Here’s the truth we forget when disappointment settles in:
Your disappointment is real — but it is not your name.
God may rebuild your plans without rewriting your worth.
Jesus does not love the “put-together” version of you more than the broken one.
He doesn’t step back when your dream falls apart — He steps closer.
When plans fall apart and life feels unsteady, Scripture reminds us where our true stability comes from.
Psalm 62:1–2 says, “For God alone my soul waits in silence; from him comes my salvation. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress; I shall not be greatly shaken.”
You can grieve what you lost and still be grounded in who you are.
When everything else feels uncertain, Jesus remains steady.
And when your soul feels shaken, He is still your rock.
Because identity comes before assignment.
Before calling, before productivity, before outcomes.
You are not loved because your dream succeeded.
You are loved because you belong to Him.
A Gentle Pause: An Identity Check-In
If you’re feeling unsteady right now, take a moment with these questions. No rushing. No fixing.
- Name what fell apart.
A dream, a timeline, a role, a season. - Name the lie it’s trying to tell you.
I’m behind. I failed. God skipped me. - Name what is still true in Jesus.
You are loved. Chosen. Held. Not alone. - Take one gentle next step today.
Pray honestly. Sit quietly. Reach out to someone safe.
Healing does not require speed.
Jesus walks at your pace.
When the Dream Changes, God Hasn’t
A dream falling apart does not mean God changed His mind about you.
Sometimes what feels like an ending is actually God re-rooting you — pulling your identity out of fragile soil and planting it in something unshakable.
What you’re walking through is not wasted.
And it is not the end of your story.
If anything, it may be the place where you finally learn who you are apart from outcomes — and discover how deeply God has been holding you all along.
You Don’t Have to Walk This Alone
If you’re in a season where things feel broken, heavy, or uncertain, I want you to know there is space for you here.
- If you’re walking through your own dark season, From the Trenches was written for moments just like this.
- If you’re ready to rebuild with intention and grace, the Legacy Builder Challenge is a gentle place to begin again.
- And if you’re craving community — real, honest, supportive — the Legacy Builders Facebook Group is open to you.
Hope still exists.
Jesus still sees you.
And you are never as alone as you feel.
Even here — even now — He is with you.
Reflection Questions
- What dream, expectation, or season has fallen apart that you’re still grieving — even if you haven’t named it out loud?
- When that dream changed, what did it start to tell you about who you are?
- Which “anchor” have you been tempted to build your identity on lately (productivity, motherhood, security, usefulness, or the dream itself)?
- What truth about who you are in Christ do you need to return to — and rest in — today?
Closing Prayer
Lord, You see the dreams that have fallen apart — the ones we prayed over, hoped for, and quietly held close. You know the disappointment we carry and the questions we don’t always know how to say out loud. When life doesn’t look like the plan, remind me that my identity is not lost with my dreams. Help us release what we’ve been clinging to for worth, security, or approval, and gently re-root our hearts in You. Meet us in our grief without rushing us. Speak truth over the lies that try to define us. And help us trust that even here — in the middle of the unknown — You are still good, still present, and still at work. Teach us who we are apart from outcomes. Hold us steady when everything else feels unsteady. And lead us forward one step at a time, anchored in Your love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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